National is threatening to fight Level 2 enforcement law if the rule on tangi and funerals isn’t changed:
Under level 2, only 10 people can attend a tangi or church service at any given time.
Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern said she, like other world leaders, struggled with the decision, but had to play it safe. . .
But what’s safe and what’s not doesn’t seem to be consistent.
National Leader Simon Bridges said the public had been writing to him raising the point that people could still go to a restaurant or movies with 100 people at the venue.
“Yet at one of the most tragic defining points of life, at a funeral, direct family members cannot attend them under those rules. That’s not just unkind, it’s inhumane, and I think we can do better than that,” he said.
One of the doctors who looked after our son and was there when when he died told us that it was very important to say goodbye properly.
We didn’t know much about funerals and others said it would be best to keep it private.
Tom was only 20 weeks old, had spent almost a third of his life in hospital and few outside the family and hospital staff had met him so we followed that advice.
It was a mistake. We had afternoon tea after the service then our parents and siblings went home leaving us alone with our young daughter and our grief.
We learned from that and when our second son died we had a public service.
It was so much better. Some people left after the service, others stayed to talk, to listen, to comfort us.
That’s how saying goodbye should be, a service about the one who has died to for the ones who are left, and for most that needs more than 10 people.
Anger and upset over this is made worse by inconsistencies:
Grieving families are distraught over inconsistencies with the COVID-19 alert level 2 rules, baffled that the Government will trust people to go to the movies, gyms and malls but not to farewell friends and whānau.
Kiwis will be privy to a whole lot of new freedoms on Thursday when the level 2 rules come into play, but it won’t bring satisfaction to the family of Southland man Maurice Skinner, who passed away last week, three months before his 90th birthday.
A former jockey and racing trainer, Maurice Skinner was a well-known Southland figure, and a funeral could’ve drawn hundreds. But his family just wanted a small private service – 21 people – so they delayed until alert level 2.
But holding off has left them disappointed because the level 2 rules don’t allow it.
“We can’t even do that now, so we’re absolutely devastated,” his daughter told Newshub. “One of the worst things you can stop people doing is being able to farewell their loved ones.”
Under level 2 there’s a cap on gatherings – no more than 10 people. And yet, up to 100 people could be in a gym, a restaurant or the movies, as long as they’re socially-distanced.
In the normal course of events, people would be much closer than two metres and part of comforting the bereaved would be hongi and hugs. But funeral directors and celebrants, as required under health and safety legislation, could make sure that social distancing was maintained.
“We know this is causing pain but we equally have tried to be really consistent,” Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern said on Tuesday.
But it doesn’t feel consistent for grieving families.
“The Government is telling us we need to be kind but where on earth is the kindness in that? It’s actually inhumane,” Clutha-Southland MP Hamish Walker told Newshub. . .
Those in mourning want the Government to trust them.
The woman Newshub spoke to anonymously is from a family of medical professionals including a COVID-19 nurse, and they know full-well how to manage the risks.
“We can be responsible with our loved ones and the people that are around us – just give us the benefit of the doubt,” she said. . .
Ten is a very small number for most families. We had 11 adults and six children at Tom’s private service.
It is possible for far more than 10 to join via electronic communication but that is a very poor second to being there, with the people you care about, albeit two metres apart.
If there was widespread community transmission of Covid-19 the insistence on no more than 10 people at a funeral would be more easily understood.
But there is not.
Yesterday’s ODT reported no new cases of the disease in the Southern District Health Board area for 16 days and the Waitaki District, like several others has recorded no cases at all.
It defies logic that the government trusts casinos, bars and movie theatres to have up to 100 people but no more than 10 at a funeral.
Preventing people from saying goodbye properly is the antithesis of the kindness we’re all exhorted to show.
It’s inhumane and the rule must be relaxed to allow families and whanau to farewell the dead and comfort the living.