Speaking grief


Speaking Grief:

Moving away from the idea that grief is a problem that needs to be “fixed,” Speaking Grief validates the experience of grievers and guides those wishing to support them.

There is no “right” way to grieve. By sharing diverse representations of bereavement, Speaking Griefillustrates that grief is a universal, yet individual experience.


Message for grievers


Speaking Grief asked people who have lost someone they love what message they would give to another grieving person. This is what they said.

How can I support someone who is grieving?


Speaking Grief asked people who’ve lost someone they love what they would like people to know about supporting someone as they grieve.

This is what they said.


No medicine for grief


Megan Devine speaks sense on grief:

Megan Devine is the author of It’s Okay That You’re Not Okay, Meeting Grief and Loss in a CultUre That Doesn’t Understand.  

It’s one of the best books on grief I’ve read.

She also has a website: Refuge in Grief where you’ll find some very helpful resources, including how to help a grieving friend.

How to help a grieving friend


It’s natural to want to make someone feel better, but rather than trying to cheer someone or fix someone who is grieving, it’s much more helpful to acknowledge the pain.

You can’t heal someone’s pain by trying to take it way from them.

When somebody shares something painful it’s much more helpful to say “I’m sorry that’s happening, do you want to tell me about it,” To be able to say “this hurts” without being talked out of it, that’s what helps. Being heard helps. 

It seems too simple to be of use, but acknowledgement can be the best medicine we have. It makes things better even when they can’t be made right. 

If you’re grieving or wanting to help someone who is, this video comes from Refuge in Grief where you will find other helpful information.

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