May 20, 2017
Rad Dads’s opens its series on fathers talking about fatherhood with Prime Minister Bill English:
Will Fleming and Greg Buckley kick into the first RadDads episode to talk with Prime Minister Bill English not about politics, but about being a dad.
The politician reveals he is a pro with a cloth nappy and a safety pin, having changed nappies for about 15 years. “I am really good at it.”
In the days before disposables were as widely used as they are now, folding nappies and changing them without sticking the pin into the baby were an art.
Separating politics and family is important for English. “I’ve always gone home for tea from The Beehive, I’ve never eaten at The Beehive… I don’t do much of the cocktail stuff…. but I want to be home.”
At home he leaves politics at the door “When I’m at home it’s not about me it’s about this household and what I can do to support then and help fulfil my role.
“Cleaning up, getting the dishes done, getting the kids to bed… I enjoyed the work of being busy in a family.”
As a father of six children he says his best piece of advice to new dads is savour the moment of the baby’s birth.
“Keep that moment. You get to hold the baby and the mother is there and it’s an experience you can’t prepare for. There’s going to be so many times when this looks hard and it is, so keep that moment.”
The video on the link above has more.
May 14, 2017
Mums come in all shapes & sizes, but they’re pretty easy to recognize because they’re the ones who teach you stuff all the time about how to be in the world & sometimes that sounds a lot like: chew with your mouth closed, sit still. stand up straight, be polite, Look them in the eye. & sometimes it seems like that sort of thing doesn’t add up to a whole lot. Until the day you feel the soft ache of love in your heart that makes you take care with a friend who hurts or when you look in a stranger’s tired eyes & you stop & smile. Or when you listen to the ABC song for the thousandth time & you laugh & say ‘again’ & suddenly you understand that is the real thing mums do & it adds up to the whole world. – Whole World © 2014 Brian Andreas – posted with permission.
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March 1, 2017
Donna Bryant Goertz writes an Owner’s Manual for a Child:
I want to be like you. I want to be just like you, but I want to become like you in my own way, in my own time, and by my own efforts. I want to watch you and imitate you. I do not want to listen to you except for a few words at a time, unless you don’t know I’m listening. I want to struggle, to make a grand effort with something very difficult, something I cannot master immediately. I want you to clear the way for my efforts, to give me the materials and supplies that will allow success to follow initial difficulty. I want you to observe me and see if I need a better tool, an instrument more my size, a taller, safer stepladder, a lower table, a container I can open by myself, a lower shelf, or a clearer demonstration of the process. I don’t want you to do it for me or rush me or feel sorry for me or praise me. Just be quiet and show me how to do it slowly, very slowly.
I will demand to do an entire project by myself all at once just because I see you doing it, but that’s not what will work for me. Be firm and draw the line for me here. I need for you to give me just one small part of the whole project and let me repeat it over and over until I perfect it. You break down the project into parts that will be very difficult but possible for me to master through much effort, following many repetitions, and after long concentration.
I want to think like you, behave like you, and hold your values. I want to do all this through my own efforts by imitating you. Slow down when speak. Let your words be few and wise. Slow down your movements. Perform your tasks in slow motion so I can absorb and imitate them. If you trust and respect me by preparing my home environment and giving me freedom within it, I will discipline myself and cooperate with you more often and more readily. The more you discipline yourself, the more I will discipline myself. The more you obey the laws of my development the, more I will obey you.
We are both so fortunate that within me I have a secret plan for my own way of being like you. I am driven by my secret plan. I am safe and happy following it. It is irresistible to me. If you interfere with my work of unfolding myself according to my secret plan and try to force me to be like you in your own way, in your own time, by your own efforts, I will forget to work on my secret plan and begin to struggle against you. I will decide to wage a war against you and everything you stand for. That’s my nature It’s my way of protecting myself. You could call it integrity. . .
Hat Tip: Not PC
February 14, 2017
Prime Minister Bill English and his wife Mary were profiled in last week’s Women’s Weekly.
It’s a story of sacrifice – he gave up farming to enable her to follow her career as a General Practitioner. She accepted the loss of privacy and family time which a life in politics demands.
It’s a story of a strong partnership, built on mutual respect, shared values and faith.
It’s a story of a love built on a foundation of friendship, a story of two successful individuals working to be a successful couple and of a loving, and for modern times, large, family.
Behind the gush is the story of a marriage that has endured and in it is the answer to a whole lot of New Zealand’s problems – loving each other and your children, for better for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health.
It’s that simple and that difficult.
The Herald and Stuff also have stories with the PM at home in Dipton.
December 8, 2016
A Facebook meme states there are 12 days of Christmas and none of them are in November.
I agree with the spirit of that message but even though it’s more than 12 days until the 25th, I couldn’t resist this:
November 25, 2016
Today is White Ribbon Day which is part of a campaign to end men’s violence towards women, and encourage males to lead by example.
That’s a good aim but it’s not good enough.
Men’s violence to women is a big problem but it isn’t the only problem. Men are violent to men, women and children. Women are violent to men, women and children. And children are violent to other children and adults.
It doesn’t matter who does it to whom.
The age and gender of the perpetrator and victim are irrelevant.
No violence, by anyone, to anyone, is acceptable.
The aim should be to end violence by anyone to anyone and to encourage everyone – man, woman, and child – to lead by example.
Ending violence by men to women is a good aim but ending all violence is a better one.
November 16, 2016
If you haven’t already discovered How to Dad on Facebook and Youtube, here’s a good place to start:
Internet star ‘How To Dad’ has released a hilarious new video, this time teaching his baby daughter how to climb a fence.
Jordan Watson, the man behind the popular Facebook and YouTube series, demonstrates many ways of climbing a fence in the video – from the classic ‘farmer dad’ to the ungraceful ‘city slicker’ and the impressive ‘stunt man’.
He posted it to the NZ Farming Facebook page, which has been providing help and support after this week’s devastating earthquakes.
“Hopefully this gives people a brief smile while all this madness goes on. I’m up the top of the North Island so it’s not affecting me, but I know a lot of people are doing it hard. So hopefully my videos give them 10 seconds of escapism,” says Watson.
His 21-month-old daughter features in the video, watching his antics while remaining completely unimpressed. . .