When you realize someone is trying to hurt you, it hurts less. Unless you love them. – Shirley Hazzard who was born on this day in 1931.
She also said:
At first, there is something you expect of life. Later, there is what life expects of you. By the time you realize these are the same, it can be too late for expectations. What we are being, not what we are to be. They are the same thing.