Be pretty if you can, be witty if you must, but be gracious if it kills you. – Elsie De Wolfe who was born on this day in 1865.
She also said:
The cardinal virtue of all beauty is restraint.
What is the goal? A house that is like the life that goes with it, a house that gives us beauty as we understand it- and beauty of a nobler kind that we may grow to understand.
A woman of the world should always be the mistress of sorrow and not its servant. She may have a grief but never a grievance.