White Ribbon aim not good enough

Today is White Ribbon Day which is part of a campaign to end men’s violence towards women, and encourage males to lead by example.

That’s a good aim but it’s not good enough.

Men’s violence to women is a big  problem but it isn’t the only problem. Men are violent to men, women and children. Women are violent to men, women  and children. And children are violent to other children and adults.

It doesn’t matter who does it to whom.

The age and gender of the perpetrator and victim are irrelevant.

No violence, by anyone, to anyone, is acceptable.

The aim should be to end violence by anyone to anyone and to encourage everyone – man, woman, and child – to lead by example.

Ending violence by men to women is a good aim but ending all violence is a better one.

8 Responses to White Ribbon aim not good enough

  1. Andrei says:

    White Ribbon day is an example of sexism and I’ll have nothing to do with it

    I do not support bigotry against anyone and that includes males

  2. I broadly support the aims of the White Ribbon movement, although I will not participate in their public parades. Getting men to acknowledge that violence towards women is unacceptable is important.

    However domestic violence is NEVER ok, whether it is a male against a female, a female against a male, or in a same-sex relationship. I disagree with Andrei that White Ribbon is sexist, but it would be good to see a wider acknowledgement that it is not just men who perpetrate domestic violence.

  3. JC says:

    I neither like or trust these “days”. To me they are bumper stickers, hashtags and the like to signal virtue.

    Another problem is the day is used as general cover for a whole mess of other agendas that take potshots at the haka, rugby, cheap booze, inequality, advertising, mateship, drugs.. you name it and it can somehow be tied into a flagship day.

    DM is all of these things and more but until you can simplify it down to just one or two concepts it will be intractable. That won’t happen because it would kill off the virtue signalling and agendas.

    JC

  4. Name Withheld says:

    they are bumper stickers, hashtags and the like to signal virtue.
    Quite true. These ribbons are more for advertising the wearers sanctimony than addressing the problem-de-jour by doing something practical.
    By not engaging in this pointless preening ritual, does that mean I am more likely to go out and punch a woman?

  5. homepaddock says:

    These days raise awareness which can give someone the push to seek help for themselves or others. My concern is the focus is too narrow – no violence is acceptable.

  6. Andrei says:

    These days raise awareness which can give someone the push to seek help for themselves or others.

    Don’t be naive Ele – the people who engage in “domestic violence” are unreachable by campaigns that “raise awareness” – they don’t give a toss. If you want to turn the dysfunctional into functional you have to deal with the whole picture, which usually includes alcoholism, poverty, material and spiritual and a plethora of character deficiencies

    Maybe a few can be salvaged but that wont happen by wearing white ribbons

    Most of us are irritated by these campaigns and the continued hectoring we receive about drinking, speeding, smoking, sugary drinks, obesity and so forth – most coming from the Government or Government funded NGOs along with other assorted busibodies

  7. homepaddock says:

    Andrei – I was meaning that the awareness might help a victim or witness seek help.
    I agree with the need to deal with the whole picture although not all offenders are the stereotypical poor, addicted, men.

  8. JC says:

    “not all offenders are the stereotypical poor, addicted, men.”

    Thats part of why Trump is Pres elect. Usually these PC campaigns are far too broad brush and make one sex 100% victims and the other 100% mad dog abusers, or one race is always a victim and another always the aggressor or 9 million Israelis are oppressing a billion Muslims and so on.

    There’s huge resentment to these unfocused attacks against whole groups.. especially when we have the tools to identify with some accuracy where the problems are likely to come from. Once we know this we have a much better chance of devising ways of combating them.

    Our failure to do this means there’s other agendas in play.

    JC

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