Saturday soapbox

Saturday’s soapbox is yours to use as you will – within the bounds of decency and absence of defamation. You’re welcome to look back or forward, discuss issues of the moment, to pontificate, ponder or point us to something of interest, to educate, elucidate or entertain, amuse, bemuse or simply muse but not to abuse.
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When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.” Fred Rogers

2 Responses to Saturday soapbox

  1. Dave Kennedy says:

    Sadly there are those who can find no helpers. This report just repeats all that I was saying in another thread, none of these children found any helper or someone who loved them enough to protect them.

    The video is worth watching as the children’s commissioner claims that there is a pattern in unnecessary child deaths, most are related to abject poverty and alcohol. He makes the point that cheap alcohol is too easy to get:


  2. TraceyS says:

    “Helper” is similar to the concept of “enlightened witness” a term coined by the influential Swiss psychologist, Alice Miller:

    “She [Miller] maintained that all instances of mental illness, addiction, crime and cultism were ultimately caused by suppressed rage and pain as a result of subconscious childhood trauma that was not resolved emotionally, assisted by a helper, which she came to term an “enlightened witness.”

    If you read her books you’ll discover that this “helper” doesn’t need to be there throughout the whole of childhood. But they do need to believe in the child. I had such people in my life. They were only there for short times, sometimes only months and in one case a year, but it was long enough. Based on these experiences, I do not consider that the State (or anyone) can pay a person to believe in a child if they do not already. What we can do is not give up hope that ALL children can overcome their circumstances given access to an enlightened helper. We must not give up on children from certain communities just because we may believe in a false inevitability that 80% of the reason for those children failing at school is owed to their circumstances.

    It is not the reason. The main reason is not having someone, anyone, in their life who believes that they are not on a collision course with fate simply because of the circumstances they were born into.


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