If David Cunliffe wasn’t really sorry before he said he was sorry for being a man he will be now.
. . . “I don’t often say it, [but] I’m sorry for being a man because family and sexual violence is overwhelmingly perpetrated by men,” he said. . .
He doesn’t often say he’s sorry or he doesn’t often say he’s sorry for being a man?
Either way that sentence is getting far more publicity than the policy it prefaced and most of the publicity is negative.
Prime Minister John Key said the apology was silly:
. . . John Key says that’s no reason to regret being a man.
“The problem isn’t being a man. The problem is if you’re an abusive man and I think it’s a bit insulting to imply that all men are abusive.
“A small group are and they need to change their behaviour and be held to an account.”
Key says with his apology, Mr Cunliffe is implying that all men fall into that category.
“To get up and say, ‘I’m sorry for being a man’ really is, I think, a bit insulting to all men in New Zealand because the vast overwhelming bulk of them are good, loving fathers, brothers, uncles.” . . .
Violence, and family violence in particular, are problems but while men are the majority of perpetrators, the majority of men aren’t.
Cunliffe’s silly sorry is the sort of comment that starts people muttering about political correctness and feminazis.
It insults the majority of men who are good men.
It might even make those who aren’t good think that being a man is the problem which therefore excuses them because it’s something they can’t change.
One of the problems we face is too few positive male role models for many children who are brought up by women, taught by women and have very little to do with good, caring, strong men who never use their strength to intimidate, punish or harm.
Rather than apologising, good men should be standing tall, celebrating manliness and showing that violence and abuse aren’t manly.
Labour’s congress is an opportunity for the party to get free publicity.
They’ve sabotaged themselves by barring the media from most sessions and in the vacuum that’s created, the focus will go on this silly sorry for which Cunliffe should indeed by sorry.