Long days, short years

We’re celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary today.

I use celebrating in a very loose sense – my farmer is at stock sales and I’m dealing with some bits and pieces which fell off my to-do list at the end of last year.

But we’re remembering a beautiful sunny day three decades ago and some of what has happened since.

We’ve had our moments – wonderful and  woeful – as any couple does.

Our marriage has been for better and worse, richer and poorer, and in sickness and in health.

We’ve experienced the wonder of welcoming our children into the world, the sadness of the illness and death of our two sons and the challenges and rewards of bringing up their sister.

We’ve confided and confronted; we’ve had laughter and tears; we’ve changed and grown.

There’s been some very long days but looking back those 30 years seem very short.

In fairy tales everyone marries and lives happily ever after.

In real life it doesn’t happen quite like that but while good times and bad come and go, love endures.


7 Responses to Long days, short years

  1. Andrei says:

    Congratulations and may God grant you many more years

    In fairy tales everyone marries and lives happily ever after.

    That is why they are called fairy tales – adults know of course that the wedding is just the beginning, not the end of the story.

    And that a marriage comes with responsibilities and sacrifices. But the blessings, God willing, will more than compensate

  2. pdm says:

    Well done to you and your farmer HP. It tkaes commitment and fortitude to achieve 30 years of marriage and of course plenty more happy years to follow.

  3. Gravedodger says:

    Congratulations to you both.
    Enduring committed relationships seem to be diminishing as the years roll by and that would be sad if it wasn’t for those, such as you and your farmer have made with your work in progress that is an inspiration.

    “marriage is an honorable estate”, and I have seen far too many estates destroyed often through the partners failing to see the positives
    of what was the original commitment and bond of romance as it morphed into a successful relationship.

    Chin up, only 20 years to match our “work in Progress” that father predicted 50 years ago “wouldn’t last”, he was wrong, so far.

    Very best wishes Murray.

    ps I recall an anniversary some 20 odd years ago when we both failed to remember the significant day until the evening of what had been a rather big day and we were both too tired to do more than agree who would scratch up some tea before we succumbed to the exhaustion that such a day can bring to working farmers on occasions.

    Maybe YF can surprise you with dinner but then it is not just down to him , go on text him after you have booked the table at Fleur’s or similar.

  4. Oh Ele. Congratulations. I’d gathered that you’d had some sad moments in parenthood. Your story is lovely both in it’s sadness and joy. Best of luck to you and your farmer for the next 30 years.

  5. Cadwallader says:

    Congratulations. Your words are very nice.

  6. homepaddock says:

    Thank you, all. We’re just home from a delicious dinner at Portside.

  7. dkzody says:

    Your comment about fairy tales made me think of this post: http://cowbird.com/story/59984/Once_Upon_A_Time/

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