Dear Kate and William
In fairytales, couples marry and live happily ever after. In real life it’s not quite that easy.
When making the vows most think only of the better, not realising that often it comes only after, and sometimes because of, the worse.
You won’t have some of the pressure many others face in ordinary day to day life. But you’ll have others, not least that of being in the public eye.
Today your marriage ceremony is expected to be watched by 2 billion people, your every move will be recorded and dissected.
I will be among those watching and wishing you well. Some people are cynical about weddings in general and yours in particular. But I’m with Robert Saxton who said: In a time when nothing is more certain than change, the commitment of two people to one another has become difficult and rare. Yet, by its scarcity, the beauty and value of this exchange have only been enhanced.
While a marriage ceremony is public, and yours more than any other, you are making a private commitment. It will be in front of others but between the two of you.
In spite of all the people watching, the vows you exchange will be made to and for each other. It is only you two, alone together, who can honour and uphold the promises and make your partnership work.
You are having what many regard as a fairytale wedding but it won’t be a fairytale marriage. In real life there is no such thing but there are long and happy unions.
I wish you that and, in the words of Pinky Agnew:
May God grant you:
Enough love to give each other trust, Enough trust to give each other faith,
Enough faith to give each other strength, Enough strength to give each other courage,
Enough courage to give each other freedom, And enough freedom to give each other love.