Peopleism next step for post-feminist progress

When a friend is asked why her surname differs from her husband’s, she says it’s because he wouldn’t change his when they married.

 

That the question is even asked is a sign that feminism hasn’t achieved all it set out to. But I am not sure it’s the best vehicle for continuing the journey towards equality – if indeed that is where we ought to be aiming, because some say that women who want to equal men lack ambition.

 

Moving on from that, there are many ways in which life is better for women of my generation than it was for those before us because of the battles fought and won by feminists.

 

But while the barriers which used to stop women following traditionally male careers have largely disappeared, has much improved for those in what were traditionally female occupations whether it’s men or women who are doing them?

 

Feminism has helped women who want to break through the glass ceiling but it has done less for those who clean up behind them. And while it’s generally accepted that women can go where only men went before, the reverse is not necessarily the case.

 

So while women may be accepted as mechanics or engineers, a man who chooses to be a kindergarten teacher, a midwife or to stay at home with the children is likely to be asked, “Whad are ya?”

 

Whether it is a man or a woman who is left holding the babies, the role of primary caregiver is still an undervalued one and that can be said about a lot of other ocupations, paid or unpaid, regardless of who does them. Because when it comes down to basics, it’s the job not the gender which counts and feminism has done nothing to change that.

 

If you shear a sheep it is a job, if you knit its wool into a jumper in a factory or at home for money that’s work too but if you do the knitting for love, it’s only a hobby. Getting a lamb from conception through to chops in the butchery is real work, but getting the chops from the butcher’s to the dining table and cleaning up afterwards is not.

 

Whoever is doing it, these domestic duties are still largely regarded as the unpaid and often unappreciated preserve of women in spite of the best efforts of generations of feminists.

 

There are a lot more important issues than who does the dirty work at home to worry about, but I’m not convinced that feminism is the best way to address them either.

 

One reason for my reservation is that by definition feminism means for women, which leaves a niggling suspicion that it also means against men.

 

Even if it is possible to be pro-women without being anti-men, feminism emphasises the differences rather than the similarities; yet it’s easier to win friends, and campaigns, by establishing common ground than by highlighting divergence. So we should be seeking solutions to our problems, not because we are women but because we are people and these are people’s problems.

 

Self-advocates in IHC call themselves People First  because that’s how they want to be seen. And surely that’s the best way to see everyone, as people, without labels and regardless of any differences between us and others.

 

I am not repudiating feminism, but suggesting there is a step forward from feminism to peopleism; where issues and concerns are addressed by people because they are people’s issues and concerns.

 

Sometimes a group of people or its members might be better able to help those in the group because of what they have in common. But almost always people from other groups have something to offer too. And sometimes by labelling an issue a particular groups issue enables those in other groups to ignore it because it’s not their concern.

 

In other words sometimes women are better able to help other women, but that doesn’t mean men might not be able to help too; and it might prevent the side-lining of important matters as women’s issues if they were regarded as people’s issues.

 

 

And we’ll know we’ve succeeded when my friend no longer has to explain why she and her husband have different surnames.

 

 

This post was prompted by Noelle McCarthy’s  column in the Herald  and Deb’s response to it at In A Strange Land. and The Hand Mirror

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

3 Responses to Peopleism next step for post-feminist progress

  1. Deborah says:

    The Feminism 101 blog has a piece on the “why not people-ism” line: Why feminism and not just humanism?

    Oh, and I’ll do post-feminism when we live in a post-patriarchy! 🙂

  2. Mr Dennis says:

    What I find telling is the fact that the first thing a radical feminist will do to express her independence is often… to dress like a man. Feminism doesn’t praise women. It rather tries to turn them into men.

    Men and women are different. We need to accept that. Men are generally physically stronger, with exceptions of course. Women are able to feed children. There are major differences both physically and mentally. Yet both sexes are equally important and should be equally valued.

    Feminism pushes women into paid work – and it should be a woman’s right to work if she wishes. But in doing so it makes unpaid work out to be unimportant, which it most certainly is not. I don’t know where I’d be without my wife.

    We need to recognise the differences and appreciate either sex as themselves, rather than trying to make both the same.

  3. Ms Poinsettia says:

    “Even if it is possible to be pro-women without being anti-men, feminism emphasises the differences rather than the similarities; ”

    I see feminism quite differently. To me emphasising the differences leads to essentialism and views like those of Mr Dennis. It’s not women working that makes unpaid work unimportant, it’s that society sees domestic work as economically unimportant and even, according to some commenters on Stuff today (talking about DPB), just lying around! See Marilyn Waring’s book Counting for Nothing for how our economy totally debases unpaid work by completely ignoring it.

    Of course there are biological differences between men and women but by far we are more alike. It is the belief in differences that sustains the idea that women should be the stay at home parent, that women are responsible if they are raped or victims of domestic violence, that women are naturally more nurturing, that women are not good leaders, that women rarely make good artists or writers and so on.

    And I think it is possible to be pro-women without being anti-men. It’s to adopt a position of enabling and supporting women’s choices – it is not logical to assume that necessarily means disabling and abandoning men.

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