We celebrated our 27th wedding anniversary last month.
Although “celebrated” is perhaps not the correct term – my farmer was in Central Otago and I was at home, but even had we been together we probably wouldn’t have done anything out of the ordinary.
My farmer reckons it’s better to know you’re loved every day than be fussed over once a year.
A cynic might say that’s an excuse to get away without giving presents.
But the good sense in his philosophy has been reinforced recently because I’ve come across several couples who’ve been having problems.
Not all of us get it right the first time and I’m not making judgements on people who have good reasons to part.
But it saddens me that people without major problems let themselves drift apart and don’t give their relationship the care and attention they need.
A marriage is like a house – it’s much better to do regular maintenance than let things slide and have to do repairs.
Well said
40 years coming up on the 18 April HP.
You are spot on with what you say – we have had the odd dodgy moments but effort by both mrs pdm and I kept things on track.
Thanks Andrei.
PDM – congratulations, a Ruby anniversary is something to be celebrated.
“we have had the odd dodgy moments” I don’t know any couples who don’t have the odd dodgy moment, but they don’t have to threaten relationships.
Congratulations Ele and your farmer (I just love your possessive slant on your relationship), 27 is a very good achievement and pdm also. It is sad how many relationships come to grief these days with the accompanying damage to the children involved. I sometimes wonder if the traditional marriage vows “till death should part us” would be more realistic to read “till one of us gets sick of it”. I see it as the trend to the throwaway society we live in where words such as compromise, commitment, loyalty, sharing, giving are becoming redundant.
As stated before my father predicted my marriage wouldn’t last, and he could still be right, but at 47 this October and with us still able to spend weeks at a happy in the confines of our mobile home with a large degree of happiness
Fat finger on small touch pad, was to read “at a time in the confines da de da ending with “his prediction is not looking so accurate.